I hate porn.

I’m not alone on this one, but this is why I personally hate porn (not the people behind it because I know, for the most part, porn is a highly accepted industry and many people do not think of it in the light I’m about to display it in, and no matter if they’re the ones behind the camera, in front of it, or watching it on their TVs and computers, every single person was made in God’s image and He loves them). Now, to my points.

Porn presents women as objects; making them less than human. Women are roughed up, and treated as a toy and an object of mere pleasure than a, as the Bible claims, “fearfully and wonderfully made person, made in His image, to be cherished and loved.” These women are not cherished and loved, and not treated “fearfully” (respectfully), but rather, are used and abused. The message porn feeds its viewers is, “This is what you do with women, this is how you treat them: they’re here to bring you pleasure, and you do whatever you want to them with no committment, no sacrifice, no bowing a knee and making her your wife first. You get full access when you want, because women are easy, and to get them to do what I’m getting them to do, just watch and learn.”

One would argue, “But Natasha, these women are not forced to make these films.” First of all, how do you know if they don’t feel forced by their circumstances? Maybe they have a child to take care of or maybe their sold on the idea by someone who manipulated them into the business. Or they’ve lost a sense of value because they were never treated with respect by men in their past or they didn’t have a father that cherished them so this is what they do. See, no little girl thinks to herself when she’s five years old, “One day, I’m gonna be a porn star.” Now if there are some that do, chances are, their own mother is one, and because of this they think it’s okay (most children want to or end up emulating their parents). So whatever the reason why they’re in this industry, whether willingly or not, these women are being mistreated and devalued. I honestly believe if they knew how much God cherished them and so did not have this in mind for them, they would leave the industry. If they understood that they were created for one man, that their body is a temple, not an object, that they were designed to conceive in the boundaries of marriage, that they have influence and power because God made them and gifted them, they would not partake of this abuse any longer.

If you’re reading this and you watch porn or work in the industry, think about what you’re supporting and what you’re doing to your soul; to your body and mind. Do you want your child or future child to engage in this industry? Isn’t there a gut feeling way inside that says, “I would not want my kid to partake of this.” If you are suffering, maybe you’re addicted, I urge you to visit this site: http://www.xxxchurch.com/ and seek freedom. You are invaluable, and you are loved, and created for a purpose. It is never too late to let go. God promises to “restore the years the locusts have eaten” and to make you “a new creation.” He sent His Son to “seek and save the lost.” No one is too far gone for the Lord. No one.

16 thoughts on “I hate porn.

  1. I think this is an incredibly biased and judgmental view. You are making assumptions and generalizations for a mass market. I do agree, some porn videos are degrading, but many are not. Try to see things from both sides, they aren’t bad people, and nor are you for judging them, or me for judging you. But some people like sex, and simply want to be in the porn industry because of that…not because they were groomed that way or were pressured or emotionally abused. That’s not fair. There are 6 billion people in this world, all with different motivations and thoughts and lives that no other person can understand. We, as human beings, can never fully understand the process or life of another human, and to call down these judgements on them, in the name of some higher power, is unjust, unfair and not okay.

    • Thank you for taking the time to read my post and respond. As I stated, I believe everyone is made in the image of God, and I’m not so much as judging the people involved in porn, as to the institution itself. I agree that some people just like sex, but in the same token, just because you like sex does not mean it isn’t damaging to you or others. A lot of people’s choices, if not all of them, affect another person, just as my post affected you and in turn your comment affected me. We have to therefore consider our choices and yes, the consequence of them and the negative side to them. If bad outweighs the good, or even if considered equal on either end, why allow yourself to continue? What is flows into the heart, proceeds forth from it. I wholeheartedly believe porn is damaging to the individual and out of that concern is why I wrote this blog.

    • I disagree, watch this

      I think we ARE groomed for it, especially men, then the entire thing is portrayed as something it isn’t on purpose, it’s all a big fat lie. If people knew the truth, saw the wizard behind the curtain, there wouldn’t BE a porn industry. In my opinion.

  2. I don’t like porn, either but I disagree. It doesn’t degrade women. I mean, there are genres of porn where that is a theme (to degrade women) but most porn is fairly “normal” stuff. If you say normal porn is degrading then you think sex is degrading.

    When you say porn is damaging to the individual, do you mean to the actors in it? Or those viewing it?

    • Thanks for commenting Carolina =)). I think porn is damaging to both the individual and the viewers. Primarily because God made it thus: one woman for one man and for the two to come together once bound in marriage. Anything outside of this concept is damaging. Even the brain tells us that when, as you have sex with more partners, the release of oxytocin lessens and lessens so that if and when you do finally settle down and get married, it will be harder to bond with your spouse. There’s more evidence of the damages here http://voices.yahoo.com/research-shows-premarital-sex-damaging-brain-5625862.html So, when you are having sex or watching it outside of the context of marriage, it is damaging.

      • Most people would be damaged in that case since it is extremely rare that a married couple are both virgins on the wedding night. Rare.

        It is also rare to find a married couple where one of them hasn’t cheated. Even my grandparents, who were married 65 years, had affairs outside marriage. Then there’s all the porn watching people do. And let’s not throw masturbation into the mix. (I assume you don’t consider that having sex outside of marriage. Or do you?)

        You’re just buying into the religious anti-sex rhetoric. Christian churches traditionally have a thing against sex, viewing it as dirty instead of natural.

        No adult is damaged by viewing normal sexual relations or having normal sexual relations with other consenting adults, regardless of marital status.

      • Sex is holy, it’s spiritual, it’s two people coming together and becomming one. Whether they’re conscious of it or not, they’re connecting to that person spiritually and becomming one with them when the man enters into the woman. Just the fact that there’s a hymen and when you first lose it it’s so painful. It’s like God was saying, “Look, this is gonna hurt, so I want you to be very certain as to who you lose it to, and I do command–for your benefit and protection–it be one person in the context of marriage.” Imagine if everyone actually obeyed that command? There would be no epidemic of sexually transmited diseases being passed on from parter to partner. Sex is sacred, Carolina–only one man should be able to access it and he should have to sacrifice and commit his life to you before recieving it. It’s a gift and a sacrifice on the woman’s part because it’s so freakin’ painful and it’s the most vunerable act for us women who tend to be insecure and sensitive. When we give a guy our bodies we’re basically giving them everything–all of us. I pray you come to realize how sacred it really is. I’m sorry you’ve had bad examples in your life, but don’t let that be a catalyst to make you approach sex in the same manner. And if you’ve already had sex before it’s never too late to stop. God forgives AND forgets. He’s the only one that can give us a brand new start. Guard your heart, because once you have sex with a guy, you’re connected to him and when you break up and you eventually get married to someone else, it sucks having the memories of the guy from before–the guy who wasn’t meant to be your husband. God heals your heart, but the consequences of your actions are still there–the connection to that person is still there. So please, consider what we’re saying here–I’m telling you this out of love and knowing that you will be much better off if you stay away from sex and porn altogether (until you’re married–not porn however, because that’s basically bringing in another couple into your bedroom with you). I’m here if you have any more concerns or want rescources as to how to abstain from sex till marriage.

  3. Look the church isn’t against sex, God INVENTED THE HUMAN ORGASM!! Holy crap…Let that sink in for a second; ok he DESIGNED testosterone, and _adrenaline_! Try that one of for size. He made them for us, and for us to USE. But just like sugar, everything good needs some moderation. Sex is not just good, it is so good its HOLY – that’s how good it is. No one’s saying sex is bad or evil here.

    The church and Christians, just tend to take some…pause when confronting Gangbangs, orgies, threesome, bakkakies, swingers, cheaters, schoolgirls, incest, beastiality and bondage…:] And the marketing off of millions of dollars from such things. That’s all I think she’s getting at.

  4. I also think sex can be sacred, it depends, but that’s just my opinion.

    I think of my body as a temple. But having been married twice, I can assure you, no earth shattering bonding took place between me and my husbands where we became one. Wish it were true.

    The fact is, people watch porn, cheat on each other, and it doesn’t damage them, although we would have define what “damage” means. (I’m assuming you mean it harms them in some noticeable way. )

    If everyone bonded spiritually with everyone they had sex with, then most of us are pretty linked up.

    I think it’s great you want to save yourself for the right man, your husband. I am an advocate of saving one’s virginity for marriage. Just not for the reasons you mention.

    • I’d argue that there wouldn’t be so much adultery if people abstained from sex before marriage. If you can wait for the person you love enough to pledge your life to and marry, (as my husband and I did for one another for a year and a half and on our wedding night I lost my virginity), then they wouldn’t be so easily tempted by another person. But if there is no discipline, no self-control and abstaining, it’s all too easy to have sex with another person. And cheating and porn does damage people. Many people confess to being addicted to porn and they hate that they are, and adultery breaks people’s hearts, it ruins trust and causes many issues for a person. I know a married couple whom, by God’s grace, their marriage was transformed, but the husband brought home an STD, and that was certainly damaging.

      • Whether people have sex before marriage or not has nothing to do with cheating. For instance, my grandparents abstained before marriage and they both cheated, yet were so bonded they stayed together for 65 yrs and they died loving each other.

        Porn damages people only if they get addicted, merely watching it is not damaging. In case you didn’t realize it, porn is what most males use to masturbate. (They show porn in sperm banks to “help” out.) Most men are not damaged.

        I’m curious what you would say to this: since Elizabeth Smart was raped before she was married, does that mean she’s any less bonded to her now husband?

      • Well yes, because she was wronged, sinned against, by someone and had that ripped away from her unwillingly. Chances are she will have to get healed from that traumatic experience before she can bond freely with her husband, without her guard up. Jeremiah 29:11 talks about our hearts being decietful and wicked and I believe before our hearts are aligned with Gods, completely handed over to Him, submitted to Him, we have desires, opinions, and views that are warped. Yes, I’m saying your views are warped because your heart has not been transformed by God. Before I cried out to Him on the night my heart was shattered, it was warped. I wanted me ex to be the one so bad, even though he was wrong for me in so many ways. I wanted to have sex before marriage, I wasn’t all that loving toward my mother, I didn’t love the Bible or church like I do now, I prayed selfish prayers. So I believe you do not hold the same beliefs and ideals as me because our heart’s are different.

  5. Thanks for this post. It’s funny when I came back to God I totally did not have that mindset. I thought it was fine to watch porn and I did not disapprove of the industry. And as my relationship grew with God, I gained the knowledge of sickly far away from help we humans are without him. I have to admit I was addicted and one day I felt God just speak to my heart and tell me I had to let it go. During that time I was so innocent to how crazy my actions were, I did whatever suited me (just as Paul talks about in scripture.) I remember looking at porn then reading my bible directly after. I did not see anything wrong with it either but one day I felt that tugging at my soul I mentioned earlier. (I say “Soul” because it was a tugging at the part of me that wanted to live on and a part of me that was eternal) And I was like,” No this is just my mind, I am fine.” Night after night, I would watch porn then open the bible but I could no longer ignore that feeling I was harboring. I felt like something on the inside was wrong and for the first time I felt this unpleasant spiritual feeling after watching it. I watched porn for years and never felt this way. There was not any condemnation but just an icky feeling, like I was better then this, like “What am I doing watching this?” feeling. Both then and now I know that was only God. He did not put me down, making me feel worthless or dirty. He just let me know I was better than the life I settled for at that time. So I decided to stop but found out when I tried that I had become addicted and couldn’t. So I prayed to God about it and he gave me a answer. Because of his answer, I no longer today am a viewer of porn. Three years later, I met a guy and fell back into the snares of the enemy. So guys be careful about who you let around you. Today I am set free from porn, the lusts that go with it and am in a right Jesus like mind. Don’t get me wrong, you have temptations but have the armor of God to resist it, to fight it and win the battle. I never would have dreamed God would have brought me this far and I can contribute that to no longer watching porn. My previous mindset is no longer the mindset I have now. Basically, sin blinds the eye site. Remember “They may be ever seeing but never perceiving, and ever hearing but never understanding; otherwise they might turn and be forgiven!’” I completely understand why the bible says this “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” Yes, the effects of porn are not physical. However, they are internal. The effects of porn are evident in a persons thoughts and behavior regarding sex, themselves, their relationships and in general how they treat other people. I took porn out of my life, I look back now and see how distorted my ideas of myself, men and life was because of it. I thought the male species were here for my lust and nothing more.Truthfully, I did not realize I felt this way until after God set me free from being a slave of lust. It was obvious, I felt this way because of how I treated men. I no longer have this view of men in my heart. As a result of that, I no longer treat them the way I use to.

    • Oh my goodness, Veronica! Thank you so very much for sharing this, sister. That was awesome and so encouraging. Your story is very powerful–so much I’d like to post it in a Facebook status. God is so amazing how He lovingly convicts us. You are looking more like Him. It’s beautiful. Praise Christ for the work He’s done and will continue in your heart!

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