I’ve been rejected. Have you?

Let’s talk about rejection. How many times have you experienced really liking a guy, or even loving one, and he rejects you? You cried, maybe even begged, but still he wouldn’t budge. I have experienced this way too many times. I mean really, once is more than enough, but on my quest for love, after one rejection I just continued running forward, heartbreak after heartbreak.

Dozens of crushed hopes later, at the age of 18, I finally decided I had enough. Instead of crying over a boy, I cried out to a Man— thee Man. 

I knew about Jesus; the son of God who died on the cross for the sins of the world. But, I did not know Jesus. One thing I did, however, that I could cry out to Him. And that’s what I did.

“Natasha, did He answer you?”

So overjoyed that you would ask. Of course He did.

“May the Lord answer you in the day of trouble;
May the name of the God of Jacob defend you;
May He send you help from the sanctuary,
And strengthen you out of Zion;
May He remember all your offerings,
And accept your burnt sacrifice. Selah

May He grant you according to your heart’s desire,
And fulfill all your purpose.
We will rejoice in your salvation,
And in the name of our God we will set up our banners!
May the Lord fulfill all your petitions.

Now I know that the Lord saves His anointed;
He will answer him from His holy heaven
With the saving strength of His right hand.

Some trust in chariots, and some in horses;
But we will remember the name of the Lord our God.
They have bowed down and fallen;
But we have risen and stand upright.

Save, Lord!
May the King answer us when we call.” -Psalm 20

 

 

Do you know that when I was twelve I asked Jesus to forgive my sins, and come into my heart? But after He did, I ignored Him and chased after every boy I found attractive—and it wouldn’t be until more than six years later that I finally look to Him for my need to be loved. Talk about feeling rejected. 

No one on this planet has been rejected more than Jesus has. We’re talking billions of people rejecting His plan for their life. [Maybe dying for that plan wasn't enough].

Next time you are, or feel rejected, think about Jesus hanging on a rugged wooden cross with bleeding gaping holes in his hands and feet, ribbons of flash hanging off his back, a crown of thorns piercing his head, and the people He’s dying for standing before Him mocking and spitting at Him while He’s begging His Father to forgive them. 

 

Check out this prophecy written by the prophet Isaiah about 650 years before Jesus hung on the cross:

“Who has believed our message?

    To whom has the Lord revealed his powerful arm?
My servant grew up in the Lord’s presence like a tender green shoot,
    like a root in dry ground.
There was nothing beautiful or majestic about his appearance,
    nothing to attract us to him.
He was despised and rejected
    a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief.
We turned our backs on him and looked the other way.
    He was despised, and we did not care.

Yet it was our weaknesses he carried;
    it was our sorrows that weighed him down.
And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God,
    a punishment for his own sins!
But he was pierced for our rebellion,
    crushed for our sins.
He was beaten so we could be whole.
    He was whipped so we could be healed.
All of us, like sheep, have strayed away.
    We have left God’s paths to follow our own.
Yet the Lord laid on him
    the sins of us all.

He was oppressed and treated harshly,
    yet he never said a word.
He was led like a lamb to the slaughter.
    And as a sheep is silent before the shearers,
    he did not open his mouth.
Unjustly condemned,
    he was led away.
No one cared that he died without descendants,
    that his life was cut short in midstream.
But he was struck down
    for the rebellion of my people.
He had done no wrong
    and had never deceived anyone.
But he was buried like a criminal;
    he was put in a rich man’s grave.

10 But it was the Lord’s good plan to crush him
    and cause him grief.
Yet when his life is made an offering for sin,
    he will have many descendants.
He will enjoy a long life,
    and the Lord’s good plan will prosper in his hands.
11 When he sees all that is accomplished by his anguish,
    he will be satisfied.
And because of his experience,
    my righteous servant will make it possible
for many to be counted righteous,
    for he will bear all their sins.
12 I will give him the honors of a victorious soldier,
    because he exposed himself to death.
He was counted among the rebels.
    He bore the sins of many and interceded for rebels.”-Isaiah 53

 

Trust me princess, Jesus knows how it feels to be rejected, hated, abused, and made fun of. When He walked this earth He was well acquainted with grief and suffering. But He conquered all the pain in this world when He rose up from the grave and defeated death. This incredible Son of God stands with arms open wide desiring you. I pray you stop rejecting Him and instead, run to Him.

Ladies, please know your worth.

with love,

Natasha

 

I caused some brothers to stumble.

Not too long ago I wrote a post about modesty. The other day I was at the building where my Church gathers, and on two occasions  I noticed different brothers looking at me.

As I drove away from the building, I began to pray, and in my time of prayer, God revealed something to me: I had been practicing vanity. Although I wasn’t showing skin, or cleavage  my tight shirt and jeans did show off my curves, and my extra makeup (mascara, lip-color, and some eye shadow), had made me more attractive, and hence, I was causing my brothers to stumble.

The Apostle Paul (the man whose letters make up more than half of the New Testament), says in one of his letters to the Church in Rome:

 ”It is good neither to eat meat nor drink wine nor do anything by which your brother stumbles or is offended or is made weak.”-Romans 14:21

And then to the Church in Corinth:

“Therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, I will never again eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble.”-1 Corinthians 8:13

And how much more so should we sisters be mindful of what we wear in order to look out for our brothers? See, in my vanity (my desire to look good), I had caused brothers to stumble. Had I simply settled for presentable, with no extra makeup and clothes that did not hug my hips and outline my curves, they probably would have been alright. But really, you ladies know that the skin-tight jeans you wear show off your butt, and what man needs to see that? The only man who can and should is your husband. If you ain’t married, you shouldn’t be flaunting and making both single and married men stumble.

If you’re saying right now, “Oh please, brothers just need to control themselves and not lust. It’s not my fault they’re lusting,” you are not obeying Christ’s command to walk in love. Love does not provoke nor is it self-seeking, but as Paul says, you look out for the interests of others, not just yourself.

Christ is our example. While on this earth, He was all about others, number One being His Father (now for us who believe, our Father), then sinners, and lastly, Himself. We are to have the same mindset: God the Father first, others second, and ourselves last. Jesus said:

“If anyone desires to be first, he shall be last of all and servant of all.”-Mark 9:35

May we stop sinning against God by serving ourselves, and start walking according to His commands. This is possible by confession and repentance. We get honest with the Lord, and then stop wearing things that cause our brothers to trip up. We pray for God to break our vanity and/or insecurity, and to help us be 100% satisfied all the time by His love and acceptance of us just the way we are.

Ladies, know that your worth doesn’t come by how good you look on the outside, and how appealing you are to men. It comes from the fact that Jesus thought you were worthy enough to die for. May you come to grasp the fullness of His love for you, and be filled by it everyday.

With love,

Natasha

Ladies, no man will ever want you as badly as Jesus does.

Jesus died for you.

“[Jesus said] See, we are going up to Jerusalem. And the Son of Man will be delivered over to the chief priests and scribes, and they will condemn Him to death and deliver Him over to the Gentiles to be mocked and flogged and crucified, and He will be raised on the third day.”-Matthew 20:18-19

“I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.” -Jonh 10:11

“For this reason the Father loves me, because I lay down my life that I may take it up again. No one takes it from me, but I lay it down of my own accord.” -John 10:17-18

 

Now I don’t about you ladies, but no guy has ever died for me.

 

Jesus wants to live in you and share a mutual love relationship with you always.

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love.”-John 15:9-10

“In that day you will know that I am in My Father, you are in Me, and I am in you.  The one who has My commands and keeps them is the one who loves Me. And the one who loves Me will be loved by My Father. I also will love him and will reveal Myself to him.”-John 14:20-21

Jesus answered, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word. My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.” -John 14:23

“I desire those You have given Me
to be with Me where I am.
Then they will see My glory,
which You have given Me
because You loved Me before the world’s foundation.
 Righteous Father!
The world has not known You.
However, I have known You,
and these have known that You sent Me.
I made Your name known to them
and will make it known,
so the love You have loved Me with
may be in them and I may be in them.” -John 17:24-26

 

Jesus wants to give you true and everlasting joy.

 “I have spoken these things to you so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” -John 15:11

 

Jesus wants to protect you.

“I am no longer in the world,
but they are in the world,
and I am coming to You.
Holy Father,
protect them by Your name
that You have given Me,
so that they may be one as We are one.
While I was with them,
I was protecting them by Your name
that You have given Me.
I guarded them and not one of them is lost,
except the son of destruction,
so that the Scripture may be fulfilled.” -John 17:11-12

 

Jesus wants to give you eternal life.

“I give them eternal life, and they will never perish—ever! No one will snatch them out of My hand. My Father, who has given them to Me, is greater than all. No one is able to snatch them out of the Father’s hand.” -John 10:28-29

 

Jesus wants to give you peace.

I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world.” -John 16:33

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” -Matthew 11:28-29

 

These are all things Jesus temporarily left heaven to give you. Think about this ladies, He didn’t just come from a far away place, from a distant land–Jesus came all the way from heaven to seek and pursue you and carry you home!

“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.” -Luke 19:10

“For I have come down from heaven, not to do my own will but the will of him who sent me.” -John 6:38

 

That’s how much Jesus loves you. He left the most incredible place in existence, where there is no pain, suffering, or death to do just that–suffer and die! Jesus knew His fate, but He–while we were yet ignoring Him, mocking Him, hating Him–chose to come anyway and suffer and die for us all, knowing that was the only way any of us could enter heaven.

Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” -John 14:6

He was and is the only person to ever walk this earth in complete perfection and holiness before God. He is the only One who has never ever lied, or lusted, or taken something that didn’t belong to Him, or disobey His Father. The only One who never broke any of the commandments. Jesus is the only person worthy of heaven and that is why He had to die, to make those who would trust in His righteousness (not on themselves) be able to get to heaven. Let’s face it, God is perfect, and none of us are. That’s why He had to have His perfect Son come down from heaven and rescue us from eternal separation from Him.

It amazes me that while I was chasing after guys, searching for “the one”, giving my whole heart to my boyfriends, and only praying in Jesus name for stuff I wanted, not ever reading His book and trying to get to know Him, He still was pursuing me and chasing after me. He was still calling my name, and desiring me; loving me, even though I didn’t really love Him. Do you know there were actually times where I cried out to Jesus, asked Him to hold me while I cried, and then immediately my crying calmed and stopped completely, and I walked away with a smile on my face–yet totally forgot about it right after and then kept on chasing after guys? I was so desperate for love, I hadn’t realized until I had my last and final heart break that love was there all along, waiting for me to embrace Him. I wish I had realized sooner, but Jesus is faithful, and He restored all the time I missed out on His love. It’s been five years since I started pursuing Jesus, getting to know Him and love Him, and our relationship just keeps getting better and better.

I remember with my last ex before Jonathan, how our love had reached a peak, and then it just went downhill from there. But with God the Father, and His Son Jesus, there is no end to their love. It just gets stronger and stronger as you continue to discover who they are and what they think about you, and what plans they have for you. Everything Jesus said He wanted to give us, and came to give us, I have and do experience daily. His love, His presence, His protection, His joy, His peace, the strength He offers to keep going, and the assurance of heaven. This is why I am so in love with my Father God, and His wonderful Son, Jesus. His love has radically transformed my life and the lives of so many I know. His inspired word along with the very words He spoke have never failed me and continue to prove true. Jesus said,

“Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away.” -Matthew 24:35

and,

“If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” -John 8:31-32

I pray you find what I have come to find. That no man will ever want you as much as Jesus wants you, and no man will ever be able to give you, all that Jesus can give you.

Know your worth, know that you are loved,

Natasha

God’s will regarding your sex life

For this is the will of God, that you should be consecrated (separated and set apart for pure and holy living): that you should abstain and shrink from all sexual vice,”

We’re gonna chew on this first. God’s will: Be separated from the ideology of the world, i.e. how they do relationships, their views and opinions etc. and rather, be open and willing to be made pure so that you can live a holy life in God’s sight. Paul specifically points out sexual sin in this verse. Why? Just as our current culture is obsessed with/worships sex, the culture in Thessalonica also worshiped sex. So this book speaks volumes in our day and age. Let’s continue.

That each one of you should know how to possess (control, manage) his own body in consecration (purity, separated from things profane) and honor,

God expects us to know how to control ourselves and our lusts, whereas the world will tell you you’re just animals so give in to the urges and have as much sex as you want. Now I don’t disagree with having as much sex as you want, but when you’re married! Not when you’re single and spreading STI’s. Purity in God’s sight is controlling your hormones and waiting until marriage. And a tip to help you stay pure is to separate yourself from the profane, i.e. promiscuous friends, sexual films and music, inappropriate jobs and places etc.

Not [to be used] in the passion of lust like the heathen, who are ignorant of the true God and have no knowledge of His will,

Basically what I stated previously: not to splurge on your urges and have sex before marriage, because it is not God’s will for you.

That no man transgress and overreach his brother and defraud him in this matter or defraud his brother in business. For the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we have already warned you solemnly and told you plainly.

We’re not to convince our Christian boyfriend or girlfriend that it’s okay to have sex before marriage. God will avenge.

For God has not called us to impurity but to consecration [to dedicate ourselves to the most thorough purity].

Give yourself whole-heartily to God’s will. Do what you must to establish and maintain purity.

Therefore whoever disregards (sets aside and rejects this) disregards not man but God, Whose [very] Spirit [Whom] He gives to you is holy (chaste, pure).

I think this Scripture’s pretty straight forward.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 is only one of many passages on sexual purity. God takes this very seriously. He wants to protect you. Please heed His warnings, and as always,

Know Your Worth

Natasha

Allow God to be Your Husband before you begin looking for one.

Ladies, before you start looking for a man (which you should never do by the way–that’s the Lord’s job), you need to become the LORD’s wife. You need to come to such a place of intimacy and closeness with Jesus, that it doesn’t even MATTER if He brings you an earthly husband or not. Otherwise, you will NEVER be joyful.

I will take you to be My wife forever.
I will take you to be My wife in righteousness,
justice, love, and compassion.
 I will take you to be My wife in faithfulness,
and you will know Yahweh. -Hosea 2:19-20

God can and wants to be so fulfilling to you that you need NO ONE ELSE. What happens when you are not completely satisfied in Him, is this delusion that if you had a husband, you’d be complete. You begin to fantasize and hope and hunt for a man and in many cases, since you’re not ready for the man God’s preparing you for, you’ll end up settling for a guy who is NOT the man of God appointed for you, and you make a huge mess out of your life AND his life, and God is watching you like, “Why didn’t you just obey my simple command: seek Me diligently.”

“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” -Hosea 4:6

I promise you, jumping into a relationship when you have yet to become fulfilled in Christ, WILL destroy you. And you may or very possibly may NOT ever come back after that destruction (I know of people who the outcome has gone both ways). Sexual immorality is a VERY powerful demonic stronghold that opens the doors for a flood of different demons to pour in and cause suicidal thoughts, lying, manipulation, perversion–the list goes on. Do not allow your “deceitful and wicked hearts” to control you. You must surrender YOUR WILL to God, and allow Him to give you new desires–HIS desires–so that you won’t be destroyed by foolishness and sin, but will walk strong and empowered, led by His Holy Spirit, into the eternal resting place He is preparing for you.

And realize, if you are not a faithful and committed wife to Your Husband Christ first, what makes you think you will be faithful and committed to an earthly husband?

Pray. Ask the LORD to really take all of your heart, to be not just your Savior, but Lord of every area of your life. Seek Him diligently. Read His Word, pray fervently, allow Him to be your husband.

Know your worth,

Natasha

Daughter of the King, Stop Conforming!

“Do not be conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.” -Romans 12:2

In other words …

You don’t have to dress provocatively and get lustful attention from men.

You don’t have to move in with a guy and have sex with him before marriage.

You don’t have to get married just to divorce and then remarry again and continue the viscous cycle.

There’s a best way to go about life and relationships: God’s way.

Instead of dressing provocatively and drawing in men that just want to have sex with you. Dress modestly and draw in guys that think you’re pretty and would like to get to know you better for you.

“Women are to dress themselves in modest clothing, with decency and good sense; not with elaborate hairstyles, gold, pearls, or expensive apparel, but with good works, as is proper for women who affirm that they worship God.” -1 Timothy 2:9-10

 

Don’t believe the hype: being overtly sexy isn’t liberating, it’s enslaving. You will always be enslaved to pleasing a man’s lustful appetite and competing with every other girl who puts herself on display. And if your main tool in drawing in men is your looks, as time works with gravity, and your beauty starts to fade, you’re gonna encounter some serious issues.

Instead of moving in with your boyfriend and giving him your body, wait for the man God brings you; who will respect and honor you and God by waiting for you until marriage.

Don’t believe the lie that men in our day and age just don’t wait till marriage anymore, because I know plenty of men who have–one of them being my husband.

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. -1 Corinthians 6:18-20

 

Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. -1 Corinthians 7:1-4

 

Notice it doesn’t say, “For the girlfriend does not have authority over her own body, but the boyfriend does.” The HUSBAND has authority over your body. Get it together ladies!

If you’re having marital problems you don’t have to divorce like this world advises you to do.

The Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” -Malachi 2:14-16

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 Forthe husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. -Ephesians 5:22-32

 

Notice a trend? It’s a command to love one another, not an option.

I know of couples who were already divorced–some thirteen years!–and God brought them back together! Check out this amazing testimony.

http://www.iamsecond.com/seconds/the-scruggs/

 

So enough conforming! Not only are we breaking God’s heart when we justify sinning, but we place ourselves in an unsafe place spiritually.

For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a fearful expectation of judgment, and a fury of fire that will consume the adversaries. Anyone who has set aside the law of Moses dies without mercy on the evidence of two or three witnesses. How much worse punishment, do you think, will be deserved by the one who has trampled underfoot the Son of God, and has profaned the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has outraged the Spirit of grace? For we know him who said, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.” And again, “The Lord will judge his people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. -Hebrews 10:26-31

 

Know your worth,

Natasha